Forever Family–Misericordia

Johnny surrounded by his books
missing chicago family

As much as Jay and I have enjoyed many facets of our life in Portland, Oregon, Chicago still tugs at our hearts. Of course, we miss that special city with its spectacular stretch of Lake Michigan beaches, vibrant culture, and stimulating diversity. Mostly, however, it’s people our hearts cry out for.

As a young couple bringing up four kids, we had an extended family, an engaged community of neighbors and an inspirational faith community, St. Clement’s Parish. We miss all of those people. But, perhaps, most of all, we miss be part of Misericordia, the amazing “second home” where the loving caretakers and administrators devoted themselves to the well-being our two children with special needs, Kristy and Johnny.

misericordia family

In the other families whose children also called Misericordia “home,” we found a community of compassion and understanding unlike any other. If we still lived in Chicago, we know we would continue to work with the folks at Misericordia as they continue to make life worth living for vulnerable children and adults.

Today I appeal to you to join me in that work. Here is a link that allows you to contribute to Misericordia’s Candy Days fundraiser.

First, however, I’ve invited Barb Quaintance, editor of the Mis Newsletter, to share with her story about other families who have lost their beautiful children who were once residents at Misericordia, but continue to find meaning in working with Mis.

misericordia alumni families     by Barb Quaintance

It’s a group no one wants to become a member of. But it’s a group that is a very important part of the Misericordia community–and is very meaningful to its members. The Misericordia Alumni Families (MAF) is a group of parents, guardians and siblings whose Misericordia loved one has passed away. (You’ll see them listed in the Misericordia directory with a heart next to their names.) Formed in 2014 by four families–the Tesmers (who lost Julie), the Scouffas’ (who lost Mary), the Hoynes (who lost Jeff) and the Gibbs (who lost Bryan)–the goals of the MAF are:

alumni family mission
  • To give Misericordia our support in helping our special home continue to provide excellent, quality care to those in need.
  • To help our members keep friendships formed over the years, as well as make new friends who are equally committed to Misericordia.

Sister Rosemary was the one who first suggested the term ‘alumni’ for the group, since she calls the residents who pass ‘graduates’ of Misericordia. The name resonated with the founders and the Misericordia Alumni Families was born.

condolences and invitation

When a family loses a resident, the MAF contacts them to offer their sympathies but also to inquire if and how the family would like to be involved with Misericordia in the future. Some do not want to stay involved, but many others choose to stay connected; e.g. continue to receive MisBiz and emails from Misericordia leadership or participate in Candy Days. Still others–families of about 70 residents who have passed–become more active members of the MAF.

masses, meals, and much more

The Misericordia Alumni Families support Misericordia in several ways. One, they are involved in planning the memorial mass, which remembers those Misericordia residents who have passed away.. Two, they staff funeral mass luncheons and work together in the Bakery during the holidays. And they have also supported the Benefit by organizing the photo booth. (The idea of creating memories through the photo booth seems particularly appropriate for the MAF since they keep memories of their loved ones alive.) And they get together several times a year to socialize and remember their loved ones.

Besides the volunteer activities done as a group, families also volunteer on their own. Many continue to volunteer in the bakery, for staff appreciation days, Sunday brunches, Family Fest, the Benefit and during the Christmas season. Not only does the volunteering help alumni families stay connected to Misericordia and the friends made over many years, but Misericordia values its connection to the alumni community.

our extended family

When I asked the Tesmers if it’s hard to be involved in Misericordia when Julie is no longer there, they said no. What would have been harder, they said, would be to have lost Julie and all the wonderful connections and friends they had at Misericordia. Asked the same question, Sherry Scouffas also said no and added: “Where else would you find so much love?”

The gratitude for Misericordia that the Tesmers and Scouffas’ feel is palpable and a big part of what the Misericordia Alumni Families is all about. The larger Misericordia community is so very lucky to count the MAF as part of our extended family.

jule’s afterword

As I mentioned earlier in this post, I’m raising money for MISERICORDIA FOUNDATION by participating in Misericordia Candy Days 2024. I would like to ask you to support the cause and make a donation to my personal fundraising page:
As you know, our children Kristy and Johnny spent many wonderful years as residents of Misericordia before being called back home to God and the angels. During those years, they not only lived a life truly worth living but had a great time doing it. And John and I and their sisters Betsy and Carrie could share in many fun times at Mis as well.

Misericordia is as much a family as a community and we are proud to continue our support of such a special place so that other vulnerable children and adults can receive the same loving, knowledgeable care that Kristy and Johnny were fortunate enough to receive.

Just click on the link below and it will lead you to my personal fundraising page:

https://secure.frontstream.com/misericordiacandydays2024/participant/JuleWard

Kristy with I Love You balloon
Kristy loves you!